Wait! Stop! Don’t leave! You are at the right place if you are looking for My Cracked Conclusion. Because if you remember, I mentioned a couple of posts ago, that things were going to change over here and this is it!
My Cracked Conclusion is now Social Media Mom! Let me explain….
In December, of 2007, I started a blog called Social Media Mom. I went to town on that blog. Social Media was just starting to make a dent in the business world, Twitter was making a name for itself and Facebook was replacing MySpace. It was fun, exciting and I realized I had a deep passion for social media.
Unfortunately, what Amy Porterfield says is true….”when you are crushing it in one area of your life, there is likely another area of your life that is lacking.” And at the time, the area of my life that was suffering was my family, which included four kids and a husband.
What happened to the idea that women can “have it all”? They can be a mom, have a career and everything else falls into place. I got news for you…..it’s all a lie!
I don’t believe that there is one single person that really and truly “has it all” in terms of balance in their life. I love the fact that Amy recognizes that and admits it. Sure, maybe for a day life is balanced, or for a week or even a month, but without a doubt, it never stays that way and this is exactly what happened to me in 2008.
My family was not getting my attention as I was on the computer constantly. The housework was not getting done and my husband felt neglected. Not to mention the fact that while I was getting lots of readers, comments and subscribers, I was not making any money. And I was struggling to justify the time I was spending on Social Media Mom when there was no revenue from it!
I finally realized, I just couldn’t do both; be the best mom I wanted to be to four kids under the age of 14, and invest all my time into my passion in social media. It was impossible and something had to give. I had to quit something. And since that something was most definitely NOT my family, I reluctantly said goodbye to Social Media Mom.
After many tears and much sadness, I sold Social Media Mom to Brian Wallace, owner of NowSourcing (they make awesome infographics), and made family my number 1 priority. For 8 years.
Now, with my oldest out of college, two away at college, my youngest in middle school, and my passion for social media re-ignited through my writing at My Cracked Conclusion, I asked Brian if I could buy back Social Media Mom! Guess what? Brian said yes!
And here we are with a new blog title, new domain, and new look. Do you like it? Are you as excited as me? Probably not but that’s ok because you will be….
Social Media Mom will open more doors, as far as content goes for you as the reader, and it will allow for a wider variety of things for me to write about! It’s a win-win for all of us and if you can’t tell, I’m thrilled.
Don’t get me wrong, just because I have 3 of 4 kids in college doesn’t mean my life will be totally balanced. I mean, let’s be real. Moms know that as soon as things seem quiet, someone needs an emergency appendectomy, the fish die and the cat gets a urinary tract infection! I’m sure you can agree……there is never a dull moment in the life of a mother.
So again, I agree with Amy when she says……
“the lie is that everything should be perfectly balanced or that we should be striving for that. I actually don’t think you should. The truth here is that you need to know your priorities.”
So as I set aside the idea of “having it all” or trying to balance everything in my life to equal amounts of time and energy, my first priority is setting some healthy boundaries.
I can be consumed with writing when I need to be and consumed with my family when I need to be. I can be focused on housework when I need to be and still get my kudos working at the Double D Market a couple days a week. When I need a break, I’ll take one. I’ll exercise and track my steps on a regular basis so that my body stays healthy and I’ll give myself permission to say no when I need to, and yes when I can.
But most of all, and something that I have never done before and am going to really work on, this time around, is try to keep open communication with those that are closest to me. For now, that includes my husband who, at the moment, is not working and my 13 year old daughter who still asks for help with homework even though she really doesn’t need it.
I will work with each of them to respect my work time and plan time to be present when I am with them. And of course, there will be those times when someone, in this household, will complain. Because each one of my children and husband, whether they are here or away think they are the most important person in the equation of my life and while they are very, very important to me, so are my boundaries and there may be times when I need to putt on earmuffs and block out their complaints and negativity in order for me to stay focused. But that’s what happens when you set boundaries. And I always tell them, “Just because boundaries make you mad, it doesn’t make me bad.”
So I guess what I’m saying is this: Priorities change as our lives change and while I am in a good place to make some changes there is no pressure. No pressure to be balanced because I’ve set my boundaries. And it’s my cracked conclusion that the future looks bright for Social Media Mom as one of my top priorities.